[Women] are conditioned to ever prove ourselves, as if our value is contingent on our ability to meet the expectations of others. As if our worth is a tank forever draining that we must fill and fill. We complete tasks and in some half-buried way believe that if we don’t, we will be discredited. Sometimes, this is true. But here is a question: Do you want to be a reliable source of literary art (or whatever writing you do), or of prompt emails? .Melissa Febos
About This Quote
In a world where women are judged by their intellect and competence, it is often hard for women to express their creativity. Women often feel the need to do things they don’t enjoy if they want to be liked by others. A woman who doesn’t spend time with her family will be judged as a bad mother, a woman who is a good mother, but doesn’t have a creative hobby or project will be judged as being bad at her job. This idea that we must prove ourselves is also the reason that women may feel the need to be beautiful.
In our society, people are encouraged to judge people on their looks rather than their abilities. What this quote means is that it is okay to be creative or do something you love as long as you put in the work and aren’t doing it for anyone else.
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